The concept of practising self care had been a trend for a while. However, it’s only recently that the topic truly became important when, in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic, humanity has been confronted with the stark reality that change is the only constant in our world. We also realised that it’s on us whether we want to merely endure change or thrive amidst it. Taking care of ourselves is the first stop towards making that choice.

Practising Self Care Changes As We Do

Reflecting on my journey through different stages of life, I’ve come to understand that self care changes alongside us.

In my twenties, taking care of myself meant having my nails done and my hair, being deliberate about who I devote my time to or the people I go out with. As I entered my thirties, it expanded to me making time to work out and do yoga, be mindful of what I eat, and nurture friendships that are important. And now, in my forties, it’s even more work. It entails making decisions such as which conversations I want to join and which I will skip, avoiding that which drains my energy, establishing a consistent mediation routine, keeping up a healthy sleep schedule, or consuming content mindfully.

It’s not only that I change but so does the world around me, necessitating heightened awareness to navigate through shifts and transformations, necessitating different types of practising self care. Forgetting to pay attention to these changes and how they inform our needs may just leave us exhausted, unfulfilled, and unhappy.

Defining What Self Care Means For You

If you are stuck not knowing what self care means for you today and therefore cannot practise it, start by asking yourself these questions:

• Do you sometimes find it difficult to carve your own space and defend it in everyday life?
• If so, why do you think that happens?
• What does this result in?
• Would you like to take a more active role in creating and using the space for yourself instead of managing what little time you get once every task is complete or everyone around you got what they needed?
• If you are already practising self care, is there room for improvement in how you do it?
• What do you need to do to achieve that improvement?

Overcoming Resistance Around Change

When it comes to implementing any change in your life, and especially the one that is related to establishing healthy habits, there is always resistance. First of all, you resist yourself. Internally, there’s a reluctance to embrace change because it’s much easier to simply stick to familiar routines and avoid discomfort. Externally, our environment, including relationships and obligations, may resist any alteration that disrupts the status quo. However, it’s crucial to recognize that nurturing ourselves isn’t selfish—it’s essential for our overall well-being and for those around us.

I’ve encountered this resistance firsthand. For example, when I tell my husband now that I won’t be available for at least five hours a day on the weekends because I will be attending my dancing workshop, I don’t let him resist because I immediately remind him how important it is for the entire family that I am okay, that I take what I need before I am able to give to others. Initially, it seemed selfish to allocate time solely for myself. But over time, I realised that by prioritising my needs, I became better equipped to support my family and community. My husband was also not aware of this before but he is aware of it now and he trusts my choices. However, it was a journey we both needed to take before we arrived at where we are now.

Creating a Personal Self Care Strategy

Practising self care does not come overnight. It requires a strategy that will be different for every individual. It requires us to make a firm decision to prioritise our well being before anything else and then to devote time to figuring out what that well being means for us.

To create your own self care strategy, start by reflecting on what it is that you need in order to feel  supported. Jot down the specific examples of what it is that you want to:

1. Do overall
2. Say yes to
3. Say no to
4. Get rid of

Once you know precisely what your needs are, try and decide whether that can be achieved only through creating new habits or whether it requires outside support and even the help of a professional in a certain field. For example, any combination of the following might just be the tool you are seeking: 

• A fitness coach or a nutritionist
• A psychotherapist or a life coach
• A group of like-minded individuals
• Your own friend group
• A workshop or a retreat
• Hobbies that bring you joy
• Good time management revolving around setting clear boundaries

Final Thoughts on Practising Self Care

While it may seem daunting, practising self care is simpler than it appears. The key lies in recognizing that the entire family benefits when a woman is fulfilled. Each of us harbours the potential to embody the radiant energy of self care, nurturing the queen within.

In essence, taking care of ourselves is not just a personal endeavour. It’s a transformative act that ripples outward, enriching the lives of everyone around us. As we navigate the uncertainties of a post-COVID era, let us remember that prioritising self-care isn’t merely a choice but a necessity—one that empowers us to not only survive but thrive in a world of constant changes.
If you are ready to prioritise your well-being, feel free to reach out and schedule your complimentary assessment call today. Together, we will tailor a plan to elevate every aspect of your life.